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Weddings

 

Shalom Beloved Sisterhood,
 
Let EVERYTHING that breathes, praise the Almighty Name, YAHWAH!!!
 
Sisters, what type of wedding did you have?  Did you have all the "trappings" that go along with them, all the stuff that we have been taught here in captivity? 
 
Below are some facts and origins of the "many" wedding traditions that Ysra'el has incorporated into our wedding ceremonies...hmmm
 
Some of Ysra'el today still amalgamate these pagan traditions into their wedding ceremonies, even though they know the Truth!  My question is why?
 
Many of us have decided to move from the westernized ceremonies (just a bit), and have added "jumping the broom" into the ceremonies.  But exactly where did "that" tradition come from?  Just why do we "jump the broom?"
 
Here are some of the "traditions" that many Israelites continue to keep in their wedding ceremonies, also you will find an article regarding "why do we jump the broom":
 
 
Beliefs and Superstitions
 
With their roots deep in mythology, symbolism, and folklore, the following traditions are archaic but charming. Many couples like to retain links with the past. It is a good idea to explain what you are doing, perhaps in a note appended to the order of service.
 
The Engagement Ring, giving and receiving of, was a Roman tradition where a man gave his beloved something valuable as a sign of his desire to marry her. If she accepted his gift, it signified their pledge to be married and was a legally binding transaction, signifying that a girl was no longer available.
 
An engagement ring containing your birthstone is said to bring you luck. There is no denying that diamonds are classic, beautiful, and hard wearing, and have a wider significance. They were once believed to have protective properties: the light reflected from the bright stones was thought to ward off evil spirits jealous of the couple's happiness. Their brightness is a symbol of purity, sincerity, and fidelity, and as one of the hardest substances in the world.

The Wedding Ring dates back to 17th century BC Egypt where wedding rings had a supernatural significance, a never-ending band signified eternal love. The significance of wearing the ring on the third finger of the left hand is the early belief that a vein from that finger leads directly to the heart.
 
The Irish Claddagh ring is used as a friendship ring, an engagement ring, or a wedding ring. It was designed by a Galway jeweler in the 16th century. A heart to symbolize love surrounded by clasped hands for friendship and a crown to symbolize eternity.
 
 
The Russian wedding ring is a combination of three linked rings, each of a different color gold and believed to represent the Holy Trinity. Elizabethans wore a version of this called the Gimmal Ring.
 
 
The Victorian wedding ring was in the shape of a pansy or the forget-me-not in turquoise and diamonds. The Victorians used combinations of stones to send secret messages.
 
 
Other antique styles of rings include French love knots, clinging ivy, or Celtic knots and scrolls. There is still a sense of magic and superstition bound up with the wedding ring - a symbol of unity, signifying that wherever you go alone; you will come back to each other again.
 
 
The Blessing of the Rings signified the wholeness in the state of marriage in which nothing is missing and everything is possible. The blessing honors the coming around of the cycle of life; from sickness to health, from want to plenty, from despair to joy, from failure to possibility, from loneliness to love.
 
 
Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue; this Victorian rhyme symbolizes the bride's desires for her new life. "Something Old", is usually given to the bride by her mother or grandmother as a piece of jewelry or other heirloom. It symbolizes the love and joy the bride hopes to bring to her new home. "Something New", is usually an accessory or the wedding dress itself worn on the wedding day. It symbolizes the success she hopes for her and her new husband's life together. "Something Borrowed" is lent to the bride by a close friend or relative, and refers to the friendships she hopes to carry with her in her new life. "Something Blue" may be a garter or ribbon. Since blue is the color of fidelity, it symbolizes the bride's commitment to her new relationship.
 
 
The White Gown was introduced by the Victorians (1800's) as the color of virginal purity and innocence and has been the fashion trend ever since. The lucky color for a bride's gown has constantly changed since the Middle Ages (500 AD - 1350) when red was worn in Europe. Irish brides considered blue to be very lucky and green unlucky as it was thought to be a temptation to the fairies to steal the bride away.
 
 
 The superstition that the groom must never see his future wife in her gown before the ceremony, originated in the belief that marriage marks a break between an old life and a new one and that the two should never overlap. If the groom did see the bride in her dress, the wedding was generally postponed for a year.
 
 
The Veil was originally worn to protect the bride from the glances of jealous suitors. In America the veil became popular when Nelly Curtis married President George Washington's aid, Major Lawrence Lewis. Apparently he became so enamoured of her after catching sight of her through a lace curtain that she decided to wear a veil on her wedding day.
 
 

Flowers have always played an important role in special events. The ancient Greeks and Romans carried herbs and flowers to ward off disease and promote fertility. The festivals of Greece and Rome teemed with flowers. Floralia or May Day honored the deity Flora, patroness of fertility and flowers. When a girl was old enough to marry, she wore flowers and ribbons twined in her hair.
 
 
Medieval weddings, than as now, called for lavish floral displays. Most important was the bride's crown of flowers, which, with wedding ring and brooch, was a symbol marking the transition from bride to wife. The bride would be prepared for her wedding day by her ladies, who crowned her with flowers, especially rosemary, that ancient symbol of loving remembrance.
 
 
Never had flowers been more incorporated than in the Victorian era. It was an age of flowers when the queen who gave it her name was married in 1840. Her wedding dress was embroidered with the plants of her realm: the Tudor rose of England, the leek of Wales, the shamrock of Ireland, the thistle of Scotland. Men wore rosebuds tucked in their buttonholes. Women wore flowers in their hair and tied them to their wrists or pinned them to their collars. They carried them neatly bunched and tied with ribbons inserted in a posy holder.
Fashions changed as the century drew to a close. When the future Queen Mary was a bride in 1873, she carried a "shower bouquet" better known today as the cascading bouquet, indicating the shape of things to come. By the late 1880's loose bunches of one or two kinds of long-stemmed flowers better known as presentation bouquets usually monochromatic, matching the wearer's dress was carried.
 
The Languageof Flowers first appeared in print in 1440 in the Oxford English Dictionary as a "tuzzy mussy", a bunch or spray of flowers, nosegay, or garland of flowers. It incorporated the western tradition of floral symbolism that filtered down from antiquity, with contributions from mythology, religion, and medicine.
 
 
 A Flower for the Mothers is a lovely Belgian custom that joins the families together. As the bride walks up the aisle, she stops and hands her mother a flower and they embrace. During the recessional, the couple walks to the groom's mother and the bride gives her mother-in-law a second flower and they also embrace.
 
 
The Flower-Strewn Path is a lovely tradition, which started in England. A bride and her bridesmaids would walk to the church on a path strewn with flowers. It symbolized the wish that the bride's path through life be like "a bed of roses" a life of ease and grace. Also, the extravagance of "wasting" the flowers by walking on them symbolizes the wish that life may be so full and easy that the bride and groom may pass through it as if tiptoeing on flowers.
 
 
The Kiss traditionally seals the promise. One salutes and claims whomever he or she kisses, so the kiss is more than a delightful public display of the physical affections that complement the marriage; it is the way in which the groom claims the bride as his forevermore and the bride claims the groom as forever hers.
 
 
The Unity Candle is an especially lovely tradition. The parents or parent of the bride and of the groom, light separate candles. The bride and groom, use the flame from these candles to light a single large candle. This gesture symbolizes the couple's individuality, offered by each, for the beginning of a union.
 
 
Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace is a tradition granting the community the right of to disapprove the union.
 
 
Tossing the Bouquet& Garter is believed to bring good luck. Whoever catches the bouquet is thought to be lucky and is supposed to be the next woman to get married. The garter is removed by the groom from the bride's let during the reception and tossed to the single men. Whoever catches the garter is believed to be the next to wed.
 
 
The White Swan dates from the early 15th century and was a symbol of allegiance to the House of Lancaster, one of the English ruling families.
 
 
Table Favors. Almonds were originally an Italian custom. Five sugar coated almonds represented the bitter and sweet sides of a marriage and were presented to the guests. The five almonds stand for health, wealth, long life, fertility and happiness. Other favors could include boxes of chocolates or thank-you scrolls tied with a ribbon.
 
 
The Cake has been part of weddings since Roman times when sweet cakes were believed to bring fertility, abundance and happiness. In ancient Rome, loaves of wheat bread were broken over the bride's head while guests collected the crumbs believed to bring them good luck.
 
 
Rice Throwing was regarded in the Orient as a fertility symbol and was tossed at the couple as they departed together as man and wife.
 
 
 The Honeymoon was thought to originate from the days when couples married under a full moon and drank honeyed wine for thirty days, or until the moon waned. Another tradition was that the couple went into hiding after the ceremony in case the bride's family tried to claim her back.
 
 
Carrying the Bride over the Threshold is an old Roman custom. The threshold was considered the domain of evil spirits who wanted to whisk the virgin bride away. The groom would carry his bride over the threshold to keep the spirits at bay.
 
 
BIBLIOGRAPHY
Freeman, John Crosby - "Victorian Entertaining", Courage Books, 1993
Kingma, Daphne Rose - "Weddings from the Heart, Contemporary and Traditional Ceremonies…", Conari Press/Publishers Group West, 1991
Lluch, Eliazbeth and Alex ' "The Indispensable Groom's Guide", Wedding Solutions, 1997
Macdonald, Jane Ross - "Alternative Weddings, An Essential Guide…", Taylor Publishing Company, 1997
McGuire, Kim - "The Irish Wedding Book", Wolfhound Press, 1994
 
 
 

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Jumping the Broom

January 7, 2008

The West African tradition of Jumping the Broom dates back to 18th Century Ghana. It is said that couples practiced this ritual as a way to ward off evil spirits, pardon their pasts and jump into a new life. This tradition eventually stopped over time.

Incidentally, Jumping the Broom was also an Ancient Celtic tradition that represented fertility. It is possible that the Celtic masters of African slaves may have suggested this ritural to be practiced as a sincere representation of marriage to the public since couples were not allowed to marry. The tradition fell out of practice once blacks were allowed to have European style weddings with rings.

Today, the resurgence of Jumping the Broom is a matter of personal choice for couples that want to pay tribute to tradition by reclaiming their heritage.

 

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The tradition of broom jumping in weddings


Fairy Broom
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Many couples want to "jump the broom" at the end of their ceremony. This is one of the oldest marriage traditions from the British Isles, predating even the handfast cord. Some scholars have traced the broom-jumping tradition to a centuries-old Welsh custom,  or "broom-stick wedding". In the early 16-18th centuries in the Americas, broom-jumping was widely practiced among the slave community as their only recognized form of marriage, although it is somewhat unclear whether the slaves imported this custom from Africa or picked up the practice from American Southerners who brought the practice from the British Isles. (Dundes, Alan: ""Jumping the Broom": On the Origin and Meaning of an African American Wedding Custom")

The broom as it is used today in marriage or handfasting ceremonies represents the threshold of the home, and jumping the broom is symbolic of entering a new home together. Even if couples are already sharing a home or are currently married and are renewing their vows, jumping the broom can help symbolize entering a new stage of their relationship, and the leaving behind of old thoughts, behaviors and patterns between the two.

Many witches, wiccans and pagans are already familiar with the usage of the broom as a symbolic way of sweeping out old energies and clearing away negativity. This is also a great usage of it in a wedding, and helps the couple to come together with a "clean slate". (Pagan and Wiccan Weddings)

 

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Why Do We Jump The Broom?
 
     











By Kwaku Person-Lynn, Ph.D.

After attending a very beautiful, happy and loving American Afrikan wedding, there was a practice exercised during the ceremony that raises some questions. It seems that jumping the broom, after being pronounced husband and wife, has recently reached new popularity. Many attribute this to the ever-popular “Roots” television series by Alex Haley, further reinforced by the movie “The Best Man.”

On the surface it seems an innocent, fun, traditional thing to do. It is a way of bringing heritage, as many perceive, into the wedding ceremony. But as psychiatrist Dr. Frances Cress Welsing has stated many times, “We are surface addicted.” Looking deeper into issues or traditions to find their origins is not a common behavior and may cause many to continue doing something that may have had negative connotations in its inception.

It is almost like celebrating Juneteenth. Many celebrate it without having a clue what they are celebrating. When asking a college student what it meant, the reply was, “I don’t know. It’s just something black people do.”
 

Since most do not know the origin of jumping the broom, while there are questions if the origin can be found, we can at least look at what others who have looked into it have to say. One thing we do know, it was a practice heavily used during slavery. It signified the joining of a couple, simulating marriage, since religious and civil marriages were prohibited and outlawed during most of slavery. When researching this subject, some of the best sources to investigate are slave narratives, which recorded the lives of slaves in their own voice.

In her book, Jumping The Broom by Harriette Cole, one of the best books on the subject, Tempie Durham, in her slave language style, recounts the practice during her marriage ceremony (Marse means master). “After Uncle Edmond said de las' words over me an 'E xter, Marse George got to have his little fun. He say, ‘Come on, Exter, you an' Tempie got to jump over de broomstick backwards. You go to do dat to see which one gwine be boss of your househol'.’ Everbody come stan' roun' to watch. Marse George hold de broom 'bout a foot high off de floor. De one dat jump over it backwards an' never touch de handle gwine boss de house, an' if bofe of dem jump over widout touchin' it, dey ain't gwine be no bossin'; de jus' gwine be 'genial.”

A view that supports this account comes from Judith Hunter, owner of Jumping the Broom Bridal Shop in Columbia, Maryland. She says, “Broomstick ceremonies in this country began on pre-Civil War plantations whose owners prohibited Christian or civil weddings among slaves. The desire of couples to bond for life in a sanctified ceremony won out, however, as slaves created their own ceremonies, which included an eclectic mix of rituals from different African tribes. Tradition says that whoever jumps the highest will make the decisions in the family. If one doesn't jump, the other wears the pants.”

However, there are those who do not participate because they feel it is a continuance of a slave tradition. There are customs and traditions practiced today that started during slavery. People of Afrikan descent continue these practices without knowing that they came from slavery, and in some cases, were started by slave masters.
 

For instance, many people of Afrikan descent do not realize that most of the European names given to Afrikans during slavery was a way of identifying which plantation a slave belonged to. If the plantation owner’s last name was Smith, all of his slaves, especially those allowed off the plantation for various reasons, would have the same last name. We continue to give our children these slave-given European names, because people of Afrikan descent do not know their original names. Thus, beginning around the 1960s, parents and individuals who were aware of this began giving their children, and t hemselves, Afrikan names.

As far as jumping the broom, we are saddled with a slave tradition that was sanctioned by the slave master, since religious or legal marriages were not allowed. Not only that, the slave master had to give permission for a couple to do so. Ms. Cole cites this in her book, "With the master's permission, a couple was allowed to stand before witnesses, pledge their devotion to each other and finally jump over a broom, which would indicate their step into married life."

As people of Afrikan descent redefine their existence: customs, traditions and rituals that perpetuate any aspect of slavery must be investigated to determine if it is harmful. One individual, when asked about jumping the broom, stated “It’s a fun thing to do.” What are sometimes called continuing and retaining Afrikan traditions, may well be something started right on a slave plantation. Of course, serious research is required so as not to duplicate something we thought was part of Afrikan or American Afrikan heritage, no matter what movie it appeared in.

Kwaku Person-Lynn is the author of FIRST WORD Black Scholars Thinkers Warriors. E-mail address: DrKwaku@hotmail.com





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