Women In Leadership Positions
"On the seventh day, when the heart of the King was merry with wine, he commanded Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, and abagtha, Zethar, and Carcas, the seven chamberlains that served in the presence of Akhasweyrosh (Ahasuerus) the King to bring Malkah Washtee (Vashti the Queen) before the King with the crown royal to show the people and the princes her beauty; for she was fair to look on. But Malkah Washtee refused to come at the King's commandment by his chamberlains: therefore was the King very wroth, and his anger burned in him. And the King said to the wise men, which knew the times...What shall we do unto Malkah Washtee according to law, because she has not performed the commandment of Melek Akhasweyrosh by the chamberlains? And Memucan answered before the king and the princes, Malkah Washtee has not done wrong to the King only, but also to all the princes, and to all the people that are in all the provinces of Melek Akhasweyrosh. For this deed of the Queen shall come abroad unto all women, so that they shall despise their husbands in their eyes, when it shall be reported Melek Akhasweyrosh commanded Malkah Washtee to be brought in before him, but she did not." (Hadasah/Esther 1:10-13, 15-17)
Shalom Akhayote,
I wonder if Malkah Washtee (Queen Vashti) lived in 2007 and we were her girlfriends what the dialog might be amongst us. I wonder if Malkah Washtee and her handmaidens and all of those at the feast she was throwing exclusively for her gurls 
immediately tripped about how absurd it was for Ha Melek (The King) to demand her to come and show off for him. If it was one of us today we'd say: “Who does he think I am anyway, a slave, this ain't Roots, my name ain‘t Kizzy! ” They might have said he didn’t have the right to ask her to come at all, especially him having had too much to drink. “Girl, he’s an alcoholic , you ain't got to do what he says.” Maybe the Queen was just upset at the nerve of the King to interrupt her feast . Maybe some of the women thought his request was emotionally abusive . Today, she would have maybe gotten a spot on Oprah, Tyra, or if she wanted help, on Dr. Phil, to talk of her emotional plight.
immediately tripped about how absurd it was for Ha Melek (The King) to demand her to come and show off for him. If it was one of us today we'd say: “Who does he think I am anyway, a slave, this ain't Roots, my name ain‘t Kizzy! ” They might have said he didn’t have the right to ask her to come at all, especially him having had too much to drink. “Girl, he’s an alcoholic , you ain't got to do what he says.” Maybe the Queen was just upset at the nerve of the King to interrupt her feast . Maybe some of the women thought his request was emotionally abusive . Today, she would have maybe gotten a spot on Oprah, Tyra, or if she wanted help, on Dr. Phil, to talk of her emotional plight.Perhaps I am being too jaded, cynical—maybe the opposite happened. When I read this first chapter of Hadasah, however, my mind thinks that perhaps they might have all burned their Persian version of corsets or bras. Thinking the King is a dog, a typical scenario of what would have happened in the 1960s in Amerikkka. Beauty and adornment, was what the King wanted to show off because he was proud of his Queen, possibly was seen as an outrageous bondage.
Maybe her girls were shocked at her outrageous behavior and extremely overt rebellion not only to her husband, but to ther husband who was the King!! Well, in a Persian nation back in that day, they would have been
—perhaps even afraid for her life, but not in 2008. In 2008, we'd be giving her high-fives , and telling her "gurl let the King come to you, you da Queen, you gots it going on!" Then in the background we hear the Queen's gurls gettin' their thang on singing Destiny's Child: All the women who are independent
Throw your hands up at me
All the honeys who makin' money
Throw your hands up at me
All the mommas who profit dollas
Throw your hands up at me
All the ladies who truly feel me
Throw your hands up at me
Throw your hands up at me
All the honeys who makin' money
Throw your hands up at me
All the mommas who profit dollas
Throw your hands up at me
All the ladies who truly feel me
Throw your hands up at me
So what about those of us who were born after the so-called "sexual revolution"? What of those of us born after the bra burning? What have we been taught by our emote/mothers, our schools, the media, and music, television, and movies? We’ve been taught to hate men. I think that we as women have come to the ends of ourselves—the ends of our marriages, with no more answers than before the sexual revolution.
Why is it that we rarely hear of marriages lasting over 10 years these days? Why is it that? It seems that every day you hear of another woman—not just leaving her husband, but her yeledeem (children) as well. I cannot tell you how many marriages, including mine, have had problems due to the brainwashing we all received growing up. It has taken many years of retraining—rethinking and now the returning unto YAH to help resolve these issues.
Malkah Washtee was in a leadership position, she was the Queen! She carried a lot of influence among the women of the provinces and in her immediate surroundings. So when she refused to come at the command of her husband, the King, what message do you think she sent to the all the women? We don't have to think too hard, we know that she sent a message of "rebellion"! 
Malkah Washtee, being in the powerful position she was, knew she had power and influence. She obviously took her position beyond her boundaries. She either forgot or she did not care that she had a HEAD! For whatever reason, she began to think that she was "all that", and could do whatever "she" wanted, to whomever "she" pleased, whenever she pleased. She thought she had it all wrapped up, because she was the Queen and that she couldn't be replaced! That's what a lot of us women today believe also, that we have it going on so well, that we cannot be replaced in our husbands lives! Well now...reality check!!! We can be replaced, and if we aren't found doing what we're suppose to according to YAH, we will!!! Again, our husbands may think that we're the next best thing since sliced bread, but YAH controls all things, and He just may tell our husbands, to get rid of us and He'll send them women who will be obedient to Torah and who are following after the examples set by Yahoshua!!! Don think this could happen? Did He not tell Mosheh that He'll kill our ancestors and give him (Mosheh) a people that will be obedient to Him? Some of us need to let the hot air out of our "tank-size" heads. We done got to "puffed" up and out of focus!
Malkah Washtee, had to be removed from her position, why? Because if she was allowed to be rebellious to her husband, the King, in front of everyone, men and women, the sistas would have followed in her footsteps and we know it!!! Then rebellion would have run rampant with the sistas. The husbands wouldn't be able to tell their wives to do a thang! The women would've said "hey, if the Queen can speak to her man like that, and act that way, then we can to!" Ohhhhh...that is why there were men with "backbone" that stood up and told the King, "heck naw, your Majesty...the Queen GOTS TO GO"!!! "Our wives are watching her every move, and if she (the Queen) is allowed to do this wicked thing, then they will do it also." So Malkah Washtee had to be replaced. And the woman that replaced her (Hadasah) was placed there by YAH. She was obedient, humble, respectful and pleasing to her husband and the King truly loved her. Read the Book of Esther in its intirety and you'll see what I mean.
Too often women encourage each other to be rebellious either overtly or covertly. Overtly, by blatantly giving false or poor counsel; covertly, by fostering the contemptuous and complaining attitude of their friends by sympathizing with them as a person and not to them as a wife. I remember hearing someone say some time ago, "not to have friends who do not support your marriage". Your girlfriends are either supporting your marriage or they are subconsciously or consciously trying to wreck it.
Yes, we all need friends to advise us and perhaps to vent our frustrations--but to what end? If yo' girl agrees with you and helps to seed, water, and plant a root of bitterness in you, then how are you being helped? How is your marriage being helped? It is not.
What we need these days are true Titus 2:5 women—true mentors, who will help the younger (or newly married) women to love their husbands. I have been blessed. I have had women defined in Titus 2:5, who have helped me become a better wife—who have "severely" corrected me even at risk of loosing our friendship, to help me become a more righteous woman and a more respectable wife. Although I still have problems at times totally submitting to my husband as unto YAHWAH and to trust his judgment on issues for our life, this is only due to the fact that I am older than my husband by six years, and that I have been that "independent woman" more than I have been a wife! It is all "flesh/self" that I truly am struggling with, something that Abba is helping me to kill daily!
Akhayote, we all know that if we are in disobedience to YAHWAH—that’s sin, bottom line. The truth is simply this: we can choose to be a righteous wife, who loves and obeys Torah—a jewel, a ruby, a blessing from YAHWAH or we can choose to be a Washtee/Vashti—bitter, resentful, and contagious to the other women around us and rotteness to our husband's bones. What are we teaching our bahnote/daughters about how to be righteous women and righteous wives, or do we care at the time? Or are we so caught up in ourselves and our wrath, that we can't see how we're affecting our bahnote weh byneem (daughters and sons).
If there are any sisters here today in leadership positions, you must watch how you carry yourselves. You are being watched, and possibly copied by very impressionable women, young and old. You do have influence and you will be held accountable for it.
Where are you Titus 2:5 women? Where is the Virtuous Woman? Where is the wife praised in Proverbs 31? Stand up! Stand up for YAHWAH and Yahoshua. Speak up for your sisters that are walking this walk, we owe them that. There is so much wicked influence out there, we MUST give them the positive, righteous, and virtuous influence that is so greatly needed.
Everyone has a circle of influence with a minimum of 12 people. Be quick to listen, slow to speak. Pray about your own marriage and ask YAHWAH to have His way with you. If you are single, pray about the type of counsel you give to your married friends, and pray and ask Abba to protect you from the counsel of women who have been hurt in marriages and that marriage has left them bitter. Sistahs, if you are asking for advise or complaining to your girlfriends about your husband, ask YAHWAH to help you to see your heart.
Pray Psalm 51 over your life. Only YAH can change us. Only HIS word can transform our minds. Read 1 Kaypha/Peter Chapters 2 and 3. If you are YAH's then help your girlfriends also have righteous marriages like yours. Mentor a younger sister or sisters in this walk.
And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of Yahoshua, giving thanks to YAHWAH, The Father through Him. Colossians 3:17
Receive The Wisdom!!!
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Let's continue on with another woman in leadership postion...
Again, like Malkah Washtee, this woman is the wife of a King. She is the first wife of Melek (King) Daweed, her name is Mykhal (Mee-khal).
Mykhal, the younger of Melek Shaul's two daughters by his wife Ahynoam (1 Sam. 14:49, 50). "Attracted by the graces of his person and the gallantry of his conduct, she fell in love with Melek Daweed and became his eeshah" (18:20-28). She showed her affection for him by promoting his escape to Naioth when Melek Shaul sought his life (1 Sam. 19:12-17). After this she did not see Daweed for many years. Meanwhile she was given in marriage to another man, Phalti or Phaltiel of Gallim (1 Sam. 25:44), but Daweed afterwards formally reclaimed her as his wife (2 Sam. 3:13-16). The relation between her and Daweed soon after this was altered. They became alienated from each other. This happened on that memorable day when the ark was brought up in great triumph from its temporary resting-place to the Set-Apart City, (Yehrushalyeem/Jerusalem).
II Shmuel 6:16 "And as the ark of YAHWAH came into the city of Daweed, Mykhal Shaul's daughter, looked through a window, and saw Melek Daweed leaping and dancing before YAHWAH; and she despised him in her heart."
Remember that Mykhal, was a Queen, she had much influence on the women of Ysrael. She was the daughter of royalty, the daughter of Melek Shaul, and Melek Daweed her husband was the King of all Ysrael. When she saw her husband, Melek Daweed out there in those Kohaneem/Priests robes, dancing and praising YAH like the kohaneem/priests are suppose to do, she felt it was a disgrace to her, Daweed, and her high position. Daweed had stripped himself of all his apparel of rank, and put on the humble cloths of the humble kohane/priest. They get to Yehrushalyeem/Jerusalem and who should be watching the whole parade from her window, none other than Mykhal, wife number one, the daughter of former King Shaul! “When she saw Melek Daweed leaping and dancing before YAHWAH, she despised him in her heart (2 Shmuel/Samuel 6:16).” After the day’s festivities are over, she tells her husband Daweed what she’s thought of the service. “How the King of Ysrael has distinguished himself today, disrobing in the sight of the slave girls of his servants like some vulgar exhibitionist! (20).”
So Daweed responded to Mykhal in this manner, "It was before YAHWAH, which chose me before your father, and before all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of YAHWAH, over Ysrael: therefore will I play before YAHWAH, I will make myself still more contemptible than that, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes, but those slave girls that you mentioned, will honor me!." (In other words Mykhal was in the flesh and cared about other women seeing her "man" naked whereas Daweed didn't care because it was as unto YAHWAH that he danced. He was in the Spirit even though naked, while she was in the flesh even though clothed)!
I Shmuel/Samuel 16: 7 for YAHWAH sees not as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, but YAHWAH looks on the heart.
Well now, let's take a look at this, do you think that possibly there were servants present when Mykhal had this discussion with her husband, King Daweed? Do you think that she cared if anyone was around, or how she might have sounded to them while speaking to him? Could any respect that she may have held in the eyes of her maidservants been lost due to her disrespectful actions? What type of influence could she have sent to young impressionable sistas in her service? Maybe the same one we have inherited from our emote/mothers when we've seen them "go off" on our ahbote/fathers! C'mon, let's get real now, we aren't here to play games, at least I know that I'm not!!!!
I Shmuel/Samuel 16: 7 for YAHWAH sees not as man sees; for man looks on the outward appearance, but YAHWAH looks on the heart.
Well now, let's take a look at this, do you think that possibly there were servants present when Mykhal had this discussion with her husband, King Daweed? Do you think that she cared if anyone was around, or how she might have sounded to them while speaking to him? Could any respect that she may have held in the eyes of her maidservants been lost due to her disrespectful actions? What type of influence could she have sent to young impressionable sistas in her service? Maybe the same one we have inherited from our emote/mothers when we've seen them "go off" on our ahbote/fathers! C'mon, let's get real now, we aren't here to play games, at least I know that I'm not!!!!
So because of those wicked actions towards her husband the King, Mykhal, daughter of Shaul, had no children to the day of her death (2 Shmuel/Samuel 6:23). It was such a heated disagreement over something so important and dear to Daweed (she tried to take his joy for praising YAH away, and it cost her dearly), that he was estranged from the beloved bride of his youth for the rest of his life. Mykhal's wicked actions and mouth , got her cut off from being a mother!
She either couldn't or didn't understand the relationship that her husband, Melek Daweed had with YAH, or maybe she didn't give a "hoot"!. Maybe she thought that she should have come first in her husband's life. Let me tell you all, if there are any of us in this group that have the same thoughts, that we as wives should come first in the lives of our husbands who are serving YAH, this is our wake up call!
Are some of us not understanding this either in 2010? Are our husbands on another level with YAH and it appears that they're just showing off? My advice is to step away, and leave it alone!!! Let our husbands, congregation leaders, elders (all of whom should be men, ), praise YAH how they choose. We are not the ones to say if YAH will accept it or not, or how it looks in the eyes of others, that's not our call. Why are we so concernced about what "man" has to say about anything, unless we're "men" pleasers! Are our praises as wives acceptable to YAH? Do we even praise Him, and the praise that we give to Him are they genuine or just for show???
The situation between Daweed and Mykhal was sudden death. Instant separation. I think Ruakh Ha Qadosh is telling us something very important about how we go about worshipping YAHWAH. Do not despise YAHWAH, like Mykhal with "PRIDE". Pray to have wisdom and know when to use it!!!
Again, let us ALL recieve this Wisdom...
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