In our congregation, "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding The Blackwoman" is "REQUIRED" and "MANDATORY" reading for the entire sisterhood! During our sisterhood meetings we take chapter by chapter and go indepth to what sister Shazhrazad has written. We even ordered the video tape "Blackman's Guide on Tour" and watched it during one of our sisterhood meetings. Sister Shahrazad did an excellent and brave thing to expose the wickedness and demonic ways of the "fallen" Blackwoman.

So again, I will quote from our sister Shahrazad in her book "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding The Blackwoman":

"Another way the Blackman can access the mental condition of the Blackwoman is to examine the way she keeps house. Although traditionally a fine dresser, the Blackwoman is subject to keeping a nasty house. She dresses impeccable to go out in the most spectacular outfit but her home or apartment may be a wreck. There may be roaches, rats and bed vermin. Note that if her house is dirty she can't be right. She will continue to keep a dirty house if the Blackman continues to act like it's not important.

She will spend grueling hours at her hairdresser and not be willing to spend 30 minutes a day cleaning her living quarters. She is known to try to entertain a man in the midst of her messy house. She may blame her sloppily kept home on the fact that she works, goes to school or just doesn't have time. These are all rank excuses which prove she has her priorities in the wrong order. There is no excuse for daily rumpled clothes strewn throughout the house, dirty ashtrays, dusty furniture, a sink full of dishes, soiled bed linen, spoiled food in the fridge or overflowing trash in the kitchen. If the bathroom is littered with hair, ring around the tub, crud in the sink or on the floor, the Blackwoman's activities and attentions are misplaced.

If her home is like any of the above descriptions, the Blackman can be sure that she's moving through life too fast, running the streets too much and neglecting hour home duties.

She must be reminded by the Blackman to keep her house clean so that she will not think he is blind. When the Blackwoman sees that the Blackman is observant and dissatisfied with her housekeeping, she may tighten up her act - at least momentarily. Her habits are difficult to break.

If the Blackwoman lives with a Blackman sometimes she starts out being on top of the house cleaning, her next step is to ask the man to chip in and help, and the next step is to stop doing it altogether. The Blackman has every right to instruct his woman to clean up the house. If he complains and she rebels, her reaction may be to continue to let the house go to hell until she is ready to clean it up - which will not be when he tells her to. Blackwomen, and some Blackmen also, consider the house as the woman's domain and whatever she does in the house is her business and her responsibility. She is allowed to run it however she pleases. The rule seems to be that she controls inside and he controls outside. This is wrong. The Blackman has the right to decide how he wants his home kept - both inside and out. Keeping the house clean can become a real bone of contention between Black couples. Blackwomen associate keeping house for a man with being his maid - which has a somewhat negative connotation due to her being forced to be a maid during slavery. Housekeeping represents hard work that she is not interested in doing on a regular basis. She doesn't have time.

If the Blackman expects the Blackwoman to hang up his clothes or take care of them, and cook dinner on time, iron a shirt every once in a while, wash or scratch his head, rub his back or do any kind of wifely duty she may respond: "I ain't yo mama" or I'm not his slave" or "what's wrong with you, get it yourself", or "I don't feel like it, I'm tired." If the Blackwoman would spend more time making her home a heaven for the Blackman he might want to stay in it more instead of looking outside for peace of mind. Keeping the house clean also gives the Blackwoman less time for the other foolishness she practices that bogs her down and steals her energy. No man wants to stay at home in a dirty house where he can't find a clean place to sit or lay. He also does not like it when his clothes are not clean and in place. The Blackwoman thinks that he should take care of himself. She believes in unisex housekeeping, you take care of yourself and I'll take care of mine...the too-neat Blackwoman wants everything in place including the Blackman. Subconsciously this kind of Blackwoman may try to celan up the external filfth because of her high level of internal filth. She may brag to her friends that "I got him trained" and he knows not to mess up anything or I'll have a fit. And to keep from hearing her mouth, sometimes the Blackman obeys her house rules - as if he is a guest.

A Blackwoman who is usually very neat will use the house as a battleground if she is displeased with the Blackman. She will stop cleaning up, stop cooking and let it all go to hell as a statement of her dissatisfaction - or to get his attention.  She calculates that when the Blackman gets tired of eating out, wearing dirty wrinkled clothes and not having sex with her, he will relent, give in and submit to her wishes. The Blackwoman gains confidence when she is able to successfully trick the Blackman. She loves the challenge when the Blackman recognizes her tricks and games and tries to work a game back on her.

...the Blackwoman is out of sync with the natural order of the universe because she refuses to adhere to the principles set forth in a systemized existence where repeat means everything. The variations of daily life she craves is called disorganization and confusion. She refers to and defends her disorganization as doing things her own way. She maintains this idea that freedom means she can do things any way she pleases. There is no freedom without responsibility. Her purpose has been reduced to her obligation to fight for her rights of superiority over her man.

The mere idea of obeying a Blackman, doing what he tells her to do, is considered as nonassertive. To work in unity with him on an idea can frighten her because she uses it as submersion of one personality into another. In business this is called a merger. She do not want to merge with the Blackman to double his power because she wants individualism." (Chapter 9, Housekeeping)

Well, well, now. Is any of what our sister said true? Can we see ourselves in any of this? When I was young, during talks with my mother, she would share "golden" information with me, and one thing she shared with me that I never forgot was this, "a real man does not want a dirty woman." And she was, and still is correct about this. Only dirt wants dirt! If our homes are out of order (cleanliness wise among others), it is our responsibility to get it back in order. Our homes tells others what type of women we are! Our homes represent us, and we can bring all kinds of spirits into our homes thinking we're so concious. We will have African Masks, African Symbols, African carvings/statues, etc. in our homes for it's decor, and being ignorant of the origins of these things. Most of us don't even take the time to educate ourselves on things of this nature, so we just bring demonic spirits in our homes around our family because we want to have "Black" decor, give me a break!!!

We need to start asking ourselves, what do we want our homes to accomplish? Here are some suggestions (you should have some of your own):

1. Wanting a home that welcomes and reflects YAH and brings honor and glory to Him.

2. Wanting a home that provides a warm, secure and loving atmosphere for our family to grow and mature.

3. Wanting a home that shows that we are Torah observant and obedient (this means that we must know Torah in order for this to be accomplished, if you don't know Torah, it's time to get started), and wanting a home that welcomes those of likemind and for others that are looking to learn and walk this path, providing both with refreshment, encouragement, and truth.

In Messiah,

AnaYah